How do you manage your emotions?
Emotional management is a crucial skill for successful living. And it’s one that can often take lots of self-awareness and practice.
A common goal that people have is to want to “control” their emotions but is that really the best approach?
I don’t think so – in fact, I think it’s a blue sky that self-help gurus use to sell books and products and can actually take you further away from emotional harmony.
Instead, I think it’s better to work at improving the “relationship” you have with your emotions.
You can’t control them completely, but you can improve the relationship you have with them and establish some kind of inner alignment.
It’s only when we listen to what our negative emotions are attempting to say that we can start to let go of them and move on.
On the Solutions in Mind Youtube Channel, I’ve uploaded an 8 video series on a crucial aspect of emotional management: the power of dissociation.
Dissociation is a distinction that is made in NLP Training, and is extremely useful for two main reasons:
- It allows us to lessen the intensity of our negative emotions, giving us some distance from them.
- It makes it possible for us to look at past experiences, objectively, and “re-learn” something useful from them.
It’s when we look back on our past experiences and learn something new & useful – not just logically but emotionally – that it becomes possible for us to release them.
To do this, we generally have to look at them from a more dissociated perspective. We need to separate ourselves from what happened and “look on” from an observer’s standpoint.
Some experiences can be too intense and it can be difficult to see the larger story.
By dissociating we can see it from a more neutral perspective and gain new insights and learnings; we update our opinion of the experience and it often leads to an emotional release.
So if you’d like to learn more about dissociation, and how it can be used to improve the relationship you have with your emotions, then check out the link to the playlist.
I’m sure you’ll find it interesting!
Note: In video 8, there is also a free audio download that takes you through the entire process step-by-step.
Here’s the link to videos if you want to check them out: